Things Fall Apart When We Fall Apart
Things fall apart when we fall apart. So to bring things back into order, which is where they belong, we have to respect how WINNING INTERNALLY (that is, within your spirit) PRECEDES WINNING MATERIALISTICALLY. This natural pairing is brought together by many things but one that is very much like the lifeblood of the pairing is ALIGNMENT.
Falling apart is only but the end of what starts out as living out of alignment with Self and though we may not know exactly know how and when things started unraveling, there are always clues left by the decisions we took. The need to live in alignment has become more of a pressing issue on everyone’s agenda as the state of consciousness or “being woke” has elevated our expectations of the quality of life we know we are worthy of.
Given how the world offers us opportunities and options that may or may not align to where we are trying to go, the value of consciously taking the time to check in with self has become as important as breathing. One of my favorite quotes that articulate my thoughts on how one can go through the process of getting into alignment is captured so beautifully by Nina Simone when she said, "I have to constantly re-identify myself to myself, reactivate my own standards, my own convictions about what I'm doing and why." The brutal simplicity of thought and beauty of Simone’s words are in many ways a process, a map that we can all follow when we make the great pilgrimage to an internal place that allows us to truly align.
Re-identify yourself to yourself
To know what is going on in your life, is to ask, what is going on with you? The tricky bit is to have an answer that in many ways has an instinctive grasp, unparalleled when placed next to answers of those who are close to you, of what exactly is going on within your mind and your heart. God’s gift to the social media generation is the logic that it’s probably a good idea to unplug and delete your Instagram or Twitter app off your phone once in a while so you can be present. We can perhaps cue the cliché that “comparison is the thief of joy” here and go further to appropriate the cliché to our time and say “comparison of people’s IG lives to your life is the thief joy.” While it is true that comparing yourself to others can steal and blind you from the beauty that exists in your own experiences, perhaps the hidden truth the greats forgot to delve into was how comparison of a present self to a former self is the beginning of joy. It’s important to celebrate the things you’ve leveled up on and also be humble enough to admit the things that need work.
Reactivate your own standards
Life has a way of chipping away at our standards. After falling back on plan C because plan A and B didn’t go quite as planned enough times, the thought of normalizing your standard seems justified. Wrong. Being flexible with how you get to set your standards is probably a conversation worth exploring. For instance, knowing the difference between “living within your means” and “not settling for lesser than what you feel you deserve” is a classic standards coin toss-up we all have to face when looking to purchase a car. Finding out why something is a standard and why it’s important to you is probably a good starting point. And watch out for your ego, low self-esteem, childhood traumas or external influences when trying to understand the standards you say you have.
Reactivate your own convictions about what I'm doing and why
Our beliefs whether subconscious or conscious lead the way when it comes to what we choose to do with our days and ultimately why we choose to pursue certain things over others. Personally, I think what is important to take note is whether your beliefs allow you to make choices according to the long-term outcomes you want in your life rather than short-term ones. Beliefs that lead to choices that give you short-term gratification are the ones that you should probably address.